Groom’s Week - How to Avoid Family Feuds

April 25th, 2007 | Groom Ideas, Wedding Ideas

Hi everyone! Hope you are all enjoying Groom’s Week! We are honored to have Craig Michaels, author of the popular book Thirty to Wife: The Tell-All Groom’s Guide to Weddings - How to Get Hitched Without Losing Your Mind or Your Fiancee (rated 5 stars on Amazon), guest blogging with us this week. He has been passing on some great tips to help brides and grooms work together to plan their wedding. His book is a great resource for the groom to help him through the planning process. So ladies, Thirty to Wife will make a great engagement gift for your fiance that will wind up helping you out too! So here’s Craig…

Today I’m going to write about a tough subject:

How to avoid family feuds

Your family. Her family. Your family and her family together. Think you’re going to get through things without a fight? Think again. Unless you follow these tips.

Be patient. It’s a trying time for everyone. Understand others’ perspectives. Especially those paying for things.

Be supportive. Give in on the little issues. It’s not worth the fight. Plus, you look like the accommodating one.

Be involved. Help with the planning. Act interested. Spend time with everyone. You might want to avoid discussing politics and the time you partied all night at the Playboy Mansion. Unless your fiancée was Miss November. And even then, tread lightly.

Be diplomatic. Watch out for family arguments. You might be forced to take sides. Always remember who you’re going home with every night.

Be a cheerleader. Make your family want to like your fiancée. Bring her home every now and then. And as for your family, you don’t always have to share everything with your mate. Try to highlight the positives.

Be a good son. But also a good husband-to-be. Keep in mind you’re about to be the head of a new household. The time to hide behind your mom’s apron is long gone.

Be a communicator. It might be a good idea to discuss with your fiancée how you’re going to handle holiday visits, especially if your families live in different cities.

Be a host. Try to get your families together before the wedding. It doesn’t have to be long, heart-wrenching visits, but you want them to be somewhat friendly for the guests, the officiant, and, especially, the videographer.

Tomorrow I’ll be giving the grooms some wedding cost saving tips.

Craig
Groom411.com